In this blog post, I will give you a few techniques for dealing with difficult people. I have gotten a few of my tips from this link. I have found it to be very helpful lately. http://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2013/06/25/dealing-with-difficult-people/#1fe5e0216329
Some people will try to drag you down. It may be difficult to avoid this type of person especially if they mean a lot to you. If someone is trying to bring you down, don’t tune them out. If they think that you aren’t listening to them, they will try to be more forceful with their argument or rant. Try to put yourself in their shoes. If you can think like them, you might be able to understand what is upsetting them and help them out. Continue reading and add your comment
Referring back to my previous post about being open with people, the tips that are provided are really helpful! I ride the bus to work and people are always talking to me. But one woman, I actually started a conversation with her! She and I became bus buddies quickly. She does most of the talking, but I don’t mind. It’s just nice having someone that is willing to talk to you and not feel like you are being forced to talk to them. It’s alarming that a lot of people on the bus will force you to talk when you clearly don’t want to! Like don’t they know, headphones/ear buds are the universal sign of ‘don’t talk to me’? This also happened with another person, but I didn’t start the conversation, he talked to me first. We had a nice conversation about the route we both take and just talk about random things. The Monday and Thursday bus driver is a chatty person, which I don’t mind so much anymore.
A tip that is my own, try to find common ground. I think this will make the conversation more easy going and not as awkward. Who knows, you may find out that you have more in common with them than you think! Finding common ground can definitely lead to more topics and may leave you with a new friend! Being an introvert is not a bad thing. People have tried to make me feel bad that I’m not a very social person and some have succeeded, others failed miserably. I prefer staying in and reading a book or listening to music, or spending time with my family than going out to party. It doesn’t seem fun to me at all.
Here’s an obvious tip, Do Not Let Anyone Pressure You To Do Anything You Don’t Want To Do Or Are Uncomfortable With! This is honestly the most important thing in my opinion. I think so many people are trying to fit into societies “rules” that they forget who they are, what they are about. Be yourself and the people that you like, they will accept you.
Recently I read an article on “Turning Stranger’s into Friends”. You can read the full article here http://tinybuddha.com/blog/11-ways-to-turn-strangers-into-friends/. It was quite interesting and I could relate to it a lot. The person who wrote it gave some obvious tips (and some not so obvious) on how to interact with people but for some it is hard, because they are not very social creatures, like myself. I have a lot of trouble starting conversations myself but if someone walks up and starts talking to me, then I’m not so scared to talk to them.
A tip that was given was discover their core passion. I think this is great. I think that if you try and figure out what the person you are talking to is passionate about, they will be more willing to talk to you! I personally could talk about my passion (animals) all day!
The tips that were given in this article were very insightful. it helped me this weekend when I went to a party and didn’t know anyone except the hostess! I left having some new friends that were very friendly and nice!
Thanks for reading!